Posts tagged ‘emotional dependency’

Three Potential Solutions:  Breaking it off, Cutting Communications Temporarily, or Fix It On the Fly

Option 1- Break it off?

Cutting contact with the other woman is the ideal potential solution.  A split should be seriously considered. Like diving into a cold swimming pool, or suddenly ripping off the bandage, there is great relief available to those with the decisiveness to end the relationship completely. Continue reading ‘OPTIONS: Break It Off or Stay In It? (Emotional Dependency Series, Part 7)’ »

This the first post is a series of articles for women who are too close.  We will be looking at the causes of emotional dependency, the hazards, and the alternatives.

What IS Emotional Dependency?

Continue reading ‘A LITTLE TOO CLOSE (Introduction to the Emotional Dependency Series)’ »

Emotional dependence is not a fun place to be most of the time.

It’s like a drug habit:  The addict spends only a fraction of his time high.  Most of the hours that he spends on his habit are wrapped up acquiring money, avoiding discovery, and wishing he were high.

Similarly, the undeniably pleasurable times spent with our delightful female friend are outweighed by hours of missing her, feeling guilty, dealing with conflict, worrying about offend her, or planning future conversations with her. Continue reading ‘WHY BOTHER OVERCOMING? (Emotional Dependency Series, Part 2)’ »

Are you worried about a relationship you are in? The presence of more than one or two of these conditions compels us to re-evaluate our relationship.  If there are more than four, definite action needs to be taken.

Are These Relationships All Bad?

The women that we let into our hearts are wonderful people!  Just because a relationship is emotionally dependent, doesn’t negate the fact that it meets legitimate needs!  Life is unbearable without connection. For many women, an emotionally dependent relationship is the only thing standing between her and complete despair.

Just like an empty belly, an empty heart will find a way to be filled.  An emotionally dependent relationship could be compared to Continue reading ‘IN DEFENSE OF EMOTIONALLY DEPENDANT RELATIONSHIPS (Emotional Dependency Series, Part 4)’ »

Why Do We Get Into These Relationships?

Exactly where does this gigantic hole in my heart come from?  What created it?  Why does it keep sucking me in?

It is my hope that if you have some idea why you have a propensity towards dependent relationships, you will have some grace on yourself.  Just because you have found yourself enmeshed with another woman doesn’t mean you need to label yourself beyond hope or, “born gay.”

Secondarily, identifying the roots of emotional dependency will help you understand why this is not something that can be solved overnight.  A seed can’t be, “cured” of it’s diminutive size. You won’t have someone cast a demon out of you and find yourself free forever more. The dependency habit won’t go away just because you met the, “right person.” You won’t say just say a special prayer and be emotionally healthy. If that were possible, we could pray for such things as an instant college diploma or a sudden healing to the extra 30 pounds we have put on since high school. We are people in process, and there is a beginning, middle and END. Continue reading ‘WHY DOES THIS KEEP HAPPENING TO ME? (Emotional Dependency Series, Part 5)’ »

“You need to get yourself some boundaries, Girl!”

When I first heard these words, I realized that I had been on a self-defeating path for as long as I could remember.   I took some time the next day and drew diagrams to analyze where my interpersonal relationships had gone wrong.  It became abundantly clear to me that I had let certain people deep into my soul who had no business being there.  No wonder I had been so miserable!

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Ro 12:15 “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”


“Let what happens to other people matter to you.”

People who are coming out of homosexuality need healthy, vital interpersonal connectedness in order to live a life that feels gratifying.  That connectedness is impossible without empathy.  Conversely, many people with homosexual tendencies are tempted to become too empathetic, and thus lose themselves in another person.  In this article, we will how to make the best use of empathy, without having it used against us. Continue reading ‘EMPATHY’ »