Posts tagged ‘Homosexuality’

Three Potential Solutions:  Breaking it off, Cutting Communications Temporarily, or Fix It On the Fly

Option 1- Break it off?

Cutting contact with the other woman is the ideal potential solution.  A split should be seriously considered. Like diving into a cold swimming pool, or suddenly ripping off the bandage, there is great relief available to those with the decisiveness to end the relationship completely. Continue reading ‘OPTIONS: Break It Off or Stay In It? (Emotional Dependency Series, Part 7)’ »

Those of us who choose to pursue healing for homosexuality build a foundation on truths like these:

We did not choose to feel this way. Homosexual desires came to us unbidden and unwelcome. We believe that homosexuality is a complex condition that begins developing at a very early age. Therefore, men and women with homosexual feelings should never be treated with contempt or ostracized because of their homosexuality. We DO, however, choose how we will behave.
It doesn’t always feel like we have much of a choice. No one determines our behavior but ourselves.

People aren’t born gay. There are some personality traits that are more typical to those who discover that they are attracted to the same sex. But those traits were given to us by God, and originally intended to be a blessing. Inborn characteristics and interests can interact with a person’s experiences, perceptions and relationships. This is the crucible where homosexual tendencies often form.

Change is possible. Many, many people have left homosexuality.


There is a kind of touch that is good for us.  How do we get more of the good kind and keep ourselves safe from the dangerous kind?

This subject is such a powder keg.  If we are too touchy, then we risk being offensive or we risk the opposite extreme of being enticing.  We might find ourselves stirring up unmanageable feelings within ourselves or others. But we allow ourselves to be too touch-starved, then we create a dam of loneliness and isolation that can collapse our resolve to stay pure.

Continue reading ‘TOUCH’ »

God gave us the powerful desire to connect with someone emotionally and physically.  It’s easy to feel like He is unfairly depriving us when He tells us to wait.  Why would He give us such strong feelings about these things and then not provide an outlet?  Will I ever feel okay?  It’s taking too long!

Continue reading ‘NO SHORTCUTS TO INTIMACY’ »

We didn’t choose to feel this way. We don’t want to feel this way. These desires have come unbidden and unwelcome. But now we feel that God is asking us what we intend to do with these feelings. We have been raised to believe that heterosexuality is God’s intended design for us, and that there must be celibacy before marriage, and monogamy after marriage. This moral code has proved to be quite a challenge.

The gay community is telling us, “Get out of denial and embrace your true self.”  They tell us, “God has made us this way.” But we can’t endure the thought that we were born gay by God’s own hand, only to hear Him command us to not to have gay relationships. We would say to them, “Please don’t encourage us betray our conscience. We have to right to determine our own course in life.”

This is an artistic illustration of an encouraging verse.  1 Corinthians 6:9-11 is a laundry list of sins, followed by the statement that these types of sinners won’t inherit the Kingdom of God.

Please don’t stop there, though!  Verse 11 is the most important one! It says, “Such WERE some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.”  We can pull those old labels off and live as saints; pure and holy.

1 Corinthians 6:9-11